The energetics of saying “Nope!” are crucial to understand if you’re wanting to up-level in your life. As women, we’re conditioned to accommodate and acquiesce. We want to nurture, and we want to see others we love feel happy. This is part of what makes the feminine so beautiful, enriching, and sacred.
Yet, I see women every day who come into my office depleted, anxious, overwhelmed, resentful, and unhappy. They are giving, giving, GIVING, GIVING. And often they don’t feel reciprocity. They’re prone to blame their partners, bosses, friends, and family members for taking more than they give. The truth is that it is OUR responsibility to assert to ourselves and others in our lives where the boundaries are.
We have to allow ourselves to say “Nope!” to the things we don’t want to do. We have to be willing to say “Nope!” to the people who criticize, judge, or deplete us. We HAVE to be clear in saying “Nope!” to the people, places, and experiences that we can be sure are not in our highest good.
This is a potent energetic that unblocks you from the belief that you need to do that which does not serve you. When you declare this, you’re opening space for the people, places, and experiences that DO uplift, heal, and support you in the most deeply enriching ways.
The energetics of saying “Nope!’ sends out the message of “I prioritize myself because I love myself.” It builds an energy of trust, respect, and clarity. It allows other people to understand who you are, what you need, and what you aren’t willing to settle for.
Saying “Nope!” to things that don’t uplift, enrich or excite you is a powerful source of healing. It is our ability to know our own limits, and to be unapologetic in declaring that we, too, get to have them. It also honors that we have a voice that we’re using to care for ourselves.
I challenge you today and for the rest of the week to notice when you’re saying “YES!” to things you don’t actually want to do or just don’t have the energetic capacity to do. What can you let go of doing?
Take the moment to tap into the underlying belief motivating an excessive willingness to participate with people and in places that don’t leave you feeling more energized or inspired.
Why might you be settling here?
What fears come up when you consider taking care of yourself and shifting the “YES!” to a “Nope!”?
Start to unpack the ways you may be conditioned to say “Yes” when really a “No” would be more indicative of self-worth and self-care. And try it on.
Some ways you can express your “Nope!”
“I’m noticing I’m really at my limit tonight. I’m going to take the time to rest. Sending you warmth and hope you enjoy!”
“I really appreciate your offer, but I’m tapped out. It’s important for me to listen to my body, which is asking for some down time.”
“I can’t make it, thank you for the invitation.”
“I’ve been working on taking better care of myself and really listening to and honoring my needs. That might mean we hang out less often, or I’m less available than I used to be. That’s because I’m learning how to set boundaries and prioritize myself. It’s been feeling really supportive and healthy for me.”
The energetics around saying “Nope!” are ultimately incredibly loving. It’s a proclamation, with respect and tact, of self-worth and self-love. Your ability to trust yourself to protect yourself appropriately and respectfully changes the entire game. In these micro moments of boundary-setting, you’re up-leveling. You’re putting out energy that asserts you are worth your best. And the divine forces respond to that. Notice how your life begins to change the more you begin to honor your own limits, needs, and use your voice to assert them.
In my upcoming Radical Real Empowerment Women’s Workshop, I’ll be teaching how to assert your worth, say no to people who don’t show up for you, and connect to only the things that support your highest good. We’ll talk about sacred lessons, core beliefs, and listening deeply to the guidance from within. Claim your spot HERE!
